Damage the end

I cannot believe that of everyone Martyn was the one who died, and what drives me crazy even more is after all this has happened after Anna destroyed his family his career and his life he still wants to be with her. The narrator still thinks if Anna of their relationship and of the time they spent together, and for him to still want her after all this just proves that he is the evil man that he wife says that he is not. In the end Anna did not care about anyone but herself, Martyn and his father were just pawns in her game, she was using them to heal over what had happens with Aston and in the end chose to continue her life without either of them.
It one of those things you just want to say "I told you so" so many people warned him about Anna an he chose not to listen, what bothers me most is that Anna damaged everyone but in the end found her peace, so many had to be sacrificed for her to find her happiness and move on.

Damage 1-14

Before I began reading Damage I read the title and automatically assumed that this book was going to be about a woman who was deceived by a man and hurt and now considered herself damage and was obsessed with damaging others, boy was I wrong!

In the beginning we meet a man who grew up with good parents, good morals, and who grew up and found his perfect match but is always making a reference to death and about a person knowing when they are going to die. He and his wife of many years had cultivated the perfect family and home, they had two children: a boy and a girl and they seemed satisfied with the life they were living. the son Martyn becomes a journalist and is some what of a play boy. He meets and forms a relationship with Anna a very older mysterious woman. 

This is where I got lost- Martyn's father and Anna are having an affair?
I guess i missed or over read in the part where any flirting or agreement to have the affair happened, but in the end they do and at the end of chapter we learn that the person who is DAMAGED is Anna from a past personal experience she had with her brother, we learn that she is a very private person and Martyn does not ask her to be otherwise in fact he doesn't ask any questions at all. I'm interested to see how the story unfolds....

Lolita

I think it's a known fact that people alway want what they can't have, and not having that one thing you want the most just intensifies the feelings, the want, and the desire.
I believe that H's want and desire for Lolita comes from those intense feelings of satisfaction that he felt from his first young love. Yes the fact that Lolita is 12 years old is very disturbing and that he finds such satisfaction in young girls is just gross but I believe that those "confused" feelings have to come from some unresolved issues or feelings.
When he speaks about Lolita he speaks of her like a god, even her flaws are perfect. He uses such deep meaningful terms to describe her and his feelings for her that when you overlook her age you kind of just look back and say wow this guy is so in love. I'm sure people reading this were very quick to judge him and say how disgusting an disturbing this was but what I am looking forward to is reading more Lolita and seeing how and if this relationship progresses.

Love and Limerence

Limerence: describes an involuntary state of mind which seems to result from a romantic attraction to another person combined with an overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated.

Limerence is that "love at first Sight" feeling, that feeling you get when you see that person and just their presence changes everything, that feeling that no problem too big exist because you have that person. I think it's a feeling we have all experienced at least once, its magical, exciting, and unforgettable. It's funny how the human mind can quickly trick someone into believing that this person is all someone needs to feel complete, It's even more funny how quickly we fall with out fearing consequences, it's truly a mystery how this happens and how quickly we can move from person to person and say we have these feelings.

Obsessive Sex

it's interesting how the chapter starts by saying that people combine obsession and sex, I say this because when I think of obsession the last thing I think about is sex, but then again today sex isn't personal an intimate anymore, it's more like a public affair, sex tape here sex tape there more and more porn sites less relationships based on feelings more relationships based on sex!. sex has definitely become a social problem, I cant imagine today like the society Davis mentions in this chapter having relationships but withheld from sexual acts, i think crime rates would rise, the economy would drop even lower and the world as we know it might even end, that's just how serious sex is. I do believe sex can be addictive, everyone searches for that feel good feeling and many people find that in sex. I agree that as long as people know what they are doing, feel good about it, and don't hurt others, then anything goes, sex is a form of expression and as adults everyone should have the right to do as they please with their sex lives!

The Possession

The Possession is based on a woman's inability to move on after a break up specially after she finds out her ex has moved on so quickly. I feel like this is a reading that everyone can relate to because even if we don't want to admit it there is always that one person we can never forget and breaking up and getting over that person was one of the hardest things to do. Like the author we find ourselves wanting to know why? why they have moved on so quickly? why they have chosen this person? is he/she the same way he/she was with me?. We become consumed with trying to answer these questions and find ourselves going above and beyond to find those answers. Everyone is different some can move on from relationship to relationship and be fine but for others it's much more difficult to move specially when they believe that the relationship can be fixed but then find their ex has already moved on.

Specialization as Monomania

As soon as I read the title "Specialization as Monomania" I knew this chapter would involve what we spoke about in our last discussion about specialization as an obsession.In this chapter Davis explains how with time madness was being excepted as a part of normality. I agree that to be specialization can be described as a form of obsession, as children we are encouraged to find our passion and from a young age start thinking about what we want to do with the rest of our lives. Society encourages us to specialize in science, medicine, technology, the arts, etc. and to aim to obtain the highest level that we can, we are encouraged to be the best of the best and to know everything their is to know about our specialty, so in a way society is encouraging us to be obsessed and we are rewarded for being obsessed with money, praise, and high social status.